Lesson 6 - Who's Minding Your Mind?

The Battle for Truth

Contestant # 2

The Healing Cycle

 

Shifting from the no/win dynamics of the Deadly Cycle to the win/win success of the Healing Cycle requires a simple change in mind.  First, however, let’s look at the Healing Cycle.  Then we will explore how to shift from one cycle to another.

 

 

1.  ACCEPTANCE - Decision for wholeness

          Are you willing to be wrong?  Are you willing to see things differently?  Are you willing to look past the tip of your own disjointed nose to see a broader perspective, accept another opinion, listen to wisdom and advice?  If your answer is "yes"  then you have begun the first step upwards to healing and peace.  You have begun the process of integration and union.  You have begun to pull yourself together!

 

2.  WORTH - Forgiveness is the key.

          There are only one of two real messages that are sent from one to another, no matter the actual words used.  The messages are:

 

          a.  "I am here to be helpful."

                The response to this will naturally be gratitude.

          b.  "I am in desperate need of help."

                The response to this will naturally be compassion.

 

All conversation boils down to the simple and profound - help being compassionately offered or help being gratefully accepted.  This perspective on life is called being forgiving.  And where can hate and anger be when only forgiveness is experienced?

 

3.  SAFETY - A little piece of Heaven on Earth.

          Just like the Starship Enterprise you, too, have a prime directive - offer a place of safety without intruding on the sacredness of other life forms and their choices.  Everyone around you is struggling with the Deadly Cycle.  Fear, obvious or disguised, runs the show.  Your only responsibility is to respect the rights of others and by your acceptance and forgiveness demonstrate that they are the same as you and therefore safe.

 

4.  PEACE - Do you want to be right or happy?

          Pride is definitely one of the "deadly sins".  So why not swallow a little bit of something that is invisible anyway, and end up with serenity.  All war is a struggle to prove you know more than others.  Free yourself by freeing others from the prison camp of arrogance.  Then make the most important choice in your life - choose peace.

 

Keep this in mind:

          In the battle for truth your belief is the contestant that you have decided to back. 

          You are so highly invested in winning, you will support your belief even with your life! 

           This principle seems to offer a full - proof method to guarantee that your belief wins.

 

 

Thoughts to contemplate

and discuss

 

1.     Start internally translating all conversation with others into the two categories of real messages. See how easily you can see the call for help, or the offer of help in another’s words. Be sure to notice the same in your own part of the conversation.

 

2.     Notice the real motive for your comments. Are you trying to prove you are right and not wrong at the expense of someone’s comfort? If so, choose a comment that will make the other feel welcome and safe with you. If your motive is peace, then the right words will come.

 

3.     A great quote from “A Course in Miracles” – “Do you want to be right or happy?” How important is it to win the argument if it ruins a relationship? You may find resistance to backing off. So may need to work hard at this one.